Need actual advise, please. Had one night stand with my best friend?

First off, I know that it was a stupid, stupid, stupid thing to do and I would take it back if I could, but I obviously can't. So, please do not reply if all you're going to say is that it was a asinine thing to do, I am aware of the fact and don't need reminders of it.



Anyhow, I've been best friends with him since I was eight. We've been through everything with each other (btw we're both 22 now). He's been the only real constant in my life.



I just went through a really bad break up of a three year relationship while he just found out about his parents' divorce. We were both having a really hard time, especially since this all happened around Christmas, and decided to go get plastered. The next thing I know he's kissing me and I didn't stop it and we ended up together. Later the next day, he tells me that he is in love with me and has been for awhile.



I just don't know how to deal with this. He's my best friend and I love him in that way, but the truth is that I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend. I just don't know what to do. I'm not naive, I know that there's no way that both of us get out of this not hurt. I just need some advise and I've gotten desperate enough to sink to this level. Please.Need actual advise, please. Had one night stand with my best friend?first of all excuse my spelling english is muy second lenguage.Everything is going to be all right.It was a mistake.Both of you were in a very vurnerable time in your lifes and it happen.I have being there.Just make sure your friend knows the difference .Sounds like you do.it was exactly just a one night stand.Hopefully for him it was not a false hope.If you see obsession kicking in-you must give him some space until he come back to here and now- to the real world.You both were meant to always be best friends and that's how you need to help to keep it.Dont feel sorry for him and please him a second time-you might confuse him and you will not find how to forgive yourself.take it easy-what is done is done. Don't regret it.but Simply don't let it happen again-he told you that he has feeling for you for a wile-thats a red flag! Mean what you say and say what you mean always- best wishes for you on 2010!Need actual advise, please. Had one night stand with my best friend?
well if you broke up, then its fine. I would tell him to wait a couple of days or weeks. To sort things out and talk to your ex about your current feelings. If your ex has moved on, then hook up with your friend. I mean if your friendship is really strong, nothing can ruin, nothing you hear me!Need actual advise, please. Had one night stand with my best friend?As I'm understanding, you have talked this out with him. If the feelings are mutual then you should go with them. I can understand that you are still in love with your old boyfriend but obvioulsy, your heart is into this. The only thing telling you not to get over your previous relationship is your mind. The only one who can decide where to take this is you. You can go with the guy who is no longer with you or a guy who is most likely perfect for you because he has been in your life for so long and has seen you the way most guys haven't.Need actual advise, please. Had one night stand with my best friend?
If you think that you have any feelings for him whatsoever, tell him what you just said here. You're still not over the loss of your ex, and you'll need time to heal before you can commit to a relationship again. IF you truly think you'll have a chance with your best friend and you have mutual feelings for him, ask him to wait. TELL him that you have feelings for him, but you want to make sure they're not just rebound so that neither of you will get hurt. I'm sure he'll understand, and hopefully be willing to wait for you to get over your ex if you tell him you're interested in a relationship with him...just not now.Need actual advise, please. Had one night stand with my best friend?Since you are still in love with your ex-boyfriend, let your best friend know. I am sure he will understand, but first of all tell him that you need to wait awhile until you decide what you want. Then remind him how fast it was that you got with him and you just need time to think. After you sort all of your thoughts, decide where you want to go from there. That is quite a friendship that you built up with the guy and I don't know if you would want to hurt him like that. Good luck and I hope you make the right choice!Need actual advise, please. Had one night stand with my best friend?
It was a stupid mistake. I made the same stupid mistake that ended up with a almost 2 year relationship that was never official , but neither one of us dated anybody else.I say just be honest with him and up front. What's done is done you can't take it back now but you can stop it from doing anymore damage than it might have already created. Take what you just said to no telling how many strangers here and tell him that. He is your best friend you love him as a best friend ,but your still in love with your ex-boyfriend and leave it at that. He will be hurt ,but that is what is expected ,but if he is truly your best friend he will come around and if he doesn't give him time ,but don't give him forever because your his best friend and I know if I was pissed as hell at my best friend I'd want them to come back and fight for our friendship..no matter how mad I was I would want that.