Promiscuity - a love of sex or lack of happiness?

Not easy to generalise, I know, but I'm curious for some opinions. When a very intelligent and generally 'nice' girl spends 10 years from 14 to 24 indulging in various one-night stands, often alcohol fuelled, and general apparent enthusiastic promiscuity would you put your money on it being genuine love of sex or major inner issues?Promiscuity - a love of sex or lack of happiness?A one night stand means they can have sex without getting close to someone so therefore i think its both the love of sex and issues when it comes to relationships!Promiscuity - a love of sex or lack of happiness?
A bit of both, but it stems down to deep-rooted issues.



Promiscuous people will defend themselves by saying "It's the sex that I love." We all love sex, but not everyone turns promiscuous. Putting yourself in at risk situations doesn't "prove" your love for sex. It's like how we all love good food, but we don't over-eat.



Once you further probe these people, you will find out that there's self-esteem issues, a history of family problems, a history of sexual abuse, etc. Most people won't easily admit these things though. If you ask a porn star why she's in the business, she will say it's b/c she loves sex. 10 years later when she writes a book (Jenna Jameson/Shelly Lubben), she will confess that she hated it, that she re-victimized herself, and that her actions symbolized her troubled past.



This goes for both men and women. I have had promiscuous ex bf's/family members, and they had some deep-rooted issues themselves.Promiscuity - a love of sex or lack of happiness?I think people who are promiscuous are usually suffering from low self esteem or some kind of depression. Often it stems from a need for approval and love, and it could also be classed as self-destructive behaviour because of the physical risks. Most people enjoy sex, but the need can be satisfied within a relationship, rather than with multiple partners. And I do apply the same standards to men and women.
I think she enjoys sex. I am not sure why people should be surprised by this. I would have thought that the Victorian belief that women did not enjoy sex would have died out by now. Strange how it lingers on.



Nobody would be surprised if a boy had a lot of one night stands between the ages of 14 and 24, why on earth should anyone be surprised if a girl does? Clearly men and women are both designed by nature to want sex, otherwise the human species would have died out long since.Promiscuity - a love of sex or lack of happiness?It can be both, depends how dependent on drugs the woman in the example is.





@ Shove It - "Why is it that if men have a lot of sex people just say it's because they enjoy sex?"



Probably because we're constantly being told that men lack a certain emotional depth for it to be for any other reason.

Promiscuity - a love of sex or lack of happiness?
Inner issues. An addiction to sex grows over time...unless she started having sex at like ten, then I'd say it's inner problems. Everyone knows the teen years are already hectic (you know, "finding yourself" and all that ****), I bet her insecurities drove her to be promiscuous. Maybe she didn't like her body, or had abusive/terrible father/male figures in her life, or thought sex and drinking is cool.
Either, neither, both?



Too many women, too many situations, too many variables. You just can't come up with one answer, because the opposite, or even a combination of opposites could be the determining factor(s) in each person's behavior. Some people do the same things for different reasons. Some people to different things for the same reasons. It is up to each of us to judge what it good or bad for us.



One example: Some people just see sex as sex... as a super-recreation. Are they wrong? Maybe. Maybe not. Will they change their mind over time? Maybe, maybe not. Is that a good or bad thing? Maybe, maybe n-... you see where I'm going here? Depends on the person and how they are wired.Promiscuity - a love of sex or lack of happiness?
I tend to think it's because of isues. A healthy love of sex can be addressed with monogamous relationships. Random one nighters often indicate some emotional issues. Depression, bipolar disorder, or a host of other mental or emotional disailities can all lead to highly promiscuous behavior.
They certainly don't think the use of their body important in anyway so they don't respect themselves. Moreover I don't think that it is many times that we find ourselves attracted to someone to have sex with no matter how much we like it.
Not a psychologist. I don't know the woman in question, so I can't say. If she's unhappy, it's up to her to do something about it.



Ask the same question with the gender flipped and see what answers you get.


Most likely lack of happiness (in general) but I know that there are happy people who love sex!
Major issues.




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Why is it that if men have a lot of sex people just say it's because they enjoy sex?




major inner issues, i've been friends with countless girls like this. good question, you think like me!
I lost my virginity at 14 and dont see it as a big deal. I met my husband at 18 but have had ons, relationships long and short etc. ( i have only had 1 ons but have had sex with a fair few.) I dont see it as a big deal as its fun to do and it feels good so why not? As long as your cheating I dont see why it matters. I think it is a bigger deal to many Americans because of some of their culture.



I come from a stable family and have no issues at all, i just like sex. At the end of the day most men and many women enjoy sex and like the thrill of it so when your young why not? I wasnt really drunk for any of the sex i have had as i think sex is better sober.



We dont get judged here and i think some countries/parts of countries are still a bit backwards and judgemental about people. I think it depends on the individual really and on what you thinkof things. i mean there are still people out there that thing homosexuality is wrong so some people are pretty backwards. I also think its ridiculous cause men enjoy sex and it doesnt have to be serious but it isnt mainly men who judge women on sex.



I think its dumb how some peopel moan if the person doesnt like sex and some moan if a person does lol. A lotof people you probably know do it and lie my best mates fiance thinks she has been with 3 but it is way way higher than that. Shes drop dead gorgous and has definitely had a good time when she was younger. She just lies to make him not feel threatened. (he already feels threatened as he sees her as way more good looking which she is). I think its ok for her to lie about it if it makes him feel better.