How can a guy who was getting ready to propose, totally change his feelings over one disagreement?

We were dating for almost 2 months, which doesn't sound long, but we were together every single day. We said I love you to one another, envolved our children and spoke of our future plans, we made love, and he treated me like a queen! He bought me beautiful bouquets of roses on 4 different occasions, would call me before work just to let me know he loved me, and was the most incredible father to his daughter and my son for a while. Then one night I wasn't feeling well, he was supposed to be at my house and was late. I called him and when he answered, there were women in the backgrond laughing and joking around. Normally, I am not a jealous person, but due to my not feeling well, I wasn't thinking strait. I hung up on him and told him not to come over, which he didn't. And the next morning instead of appologizing for my behavior, I told him to give me back my son's carseat! Knowing damn well I didn't mean it! Now he says he can't forgive me for my behavior? Is that possible? Or BSHow can a guy who was getting ready to propose, totally change his feelings over one disagreement?2 months is not long enough for people to know that they want to get married.



Sorry.How can a guy who was getting ready to propose, totally change his feelings over one disagreement?
BS. If he really loved you and wanted to spend his life with you then he wouldn't dump you over one stupid fight. He might be irritated that you were short with him but he would let you apologize and get over it.How can a guy who was getting ready to propose, totally change his feelings over one disagreement?if a person loves another person a lot they could forgivem. But heck, that guy sounds like a prick. Maybe you should try apologizing to him, and then see what happens next.
sounds like he's a sweet talker-move on!!!!How can a guy who was getting ready to propose, totally change his feelings over one disagreement?guys bs if he reallly love you, he will continue to kiss your @ss.How can a guy who was getting ready to propose, totally change his feelings over one disagreement?
Maybe he dissided that getting married so soon was a mistake 2 months are not long enogh.
he's hurt, that you would say the things you did and do the things you did, you need to have a sit down talk with him, express your feelings and apologize for your actions, if you two truly love each other, this should all warm over after you explain to him how you feelHow can a guy who was getting ready to propose, totally change his feelings over one disagreement?
well hes probably just stressed that you fought. his feelings probably havent changed it just probably feels that way because of the disagreement. trust me you will make up. if he was getting ready to propose he would just let all of it go over one fight....give it sometime and wait for him to come to you if he doesnt come to you or talk to you first then call him and tell him you are sorry even if you arent because you dont want a relationship to just slip away like that.
guys r weird that way so yea srry
he doesnt really love you..a lot of fish in the ocean honey, dont waste your life being with the guy who change his mind in just a snap..his lost girl not yours. Prove to him you can move on and you can live without him.
I'm sorry but yes, we as people shouldn't say things that we don't mean just to hurt the others feeling. Still I hope everything works, out good luck!
thats tough man. i can say your wrong but you know you are just say your sorry and explain why you was jealous..cause you care for him right! if he doesnt want to hear it then forget about him. he knows how you feel if he cant forgive you then he doesnt really love you. try to make him see from your point of view cause i know id act simular to you.
You two need to sit down and really talk about this. You will need to initiate the conversation, and it won't be easy. Try going over to his house and telling him you love him. You didn't mean what happened, and he needs to know it. Even though you were sick, he is really hurt and needs an apology. There might be something else behind his anger, too. Maybe a past relationship was really bad and had some similarities to what is going on now. The only solution is talk to him.
He sounded very kind and caring the first time...



Anyway, maybe because he had put his whole heart into everything, he might've felt that you've suddenly "betrayed" him by "not trusting" him. He may have not exactly understood that you were not feeling well or maybe one of you overreacted which caused the other to feel a little discouraged.



I'm sure he wouldn't hold a grudge for that long and maybe he'd realize what had actually happened. I hope things work out for you. Good luck!
i think u kinda over did it...its possible, u should have approach the situation differently but on the other hand may he was glad u did what u did to find reason to leave for that other girl... i guess u'll never know now.. 2 bad huh?
I would have done the same thing if I were him. I know it's probably wrong and selfish but that's the way some people are.
they can change their mind depending on the question and the other reason is that there can be another girl he likes and the other girl agrees with him all the time, so he might think that with the other girl things might be easier for him! So yeah! watch out!
phewwww, i don't know what exactly to say, but i think he was never interested in proposing you in the first place coz if he would have been truly interested then he would have said sorry or atleast have tried not to loose you, anyway don't get yourself upset, look forward, there are more men out there :), best of luck
That does not sound like a very secure relationship. Number one you two were together for only two months and you both fell in love. people that fall in love so fast are more than likely to break one another's hearts (not always the case, but most of the time it is) I was young and nieve at one time and fell for the types of guys that got me emotionally attached to them, then they founds somebody else that they liked better.



Anyway, you just might have done or said something pretty legit, who knows, maybe there really was something going on.



The fact that he is not able to forgive you does not indicate true love. If someone truly loves you, they are willing to talk and iron things out and they are willing to forgive. That is what true love is.

So you weren't feeling well, you got a bit cranky, he needs to be a bit understanding of that too.



I know that it is difficult, but it is NOT YOUR job to try to crawl back on your hands and knees begging for him to forgive you and to come back to you, he needs to do the begging now, if he doesn't then he never thought much of you to begin with and chances are good, the dude was cheating.



Just be glad that those colors showed through before you said "I DO" it is better to see them now instead of later, because a marriage with someone who cannot forgive is H@!!
it is not the disagreement that caused him to bolt on you! trust me. he bolted on you because he is insecure what he did is pure and utter BS and indefensible. only excuse that would fly with me for why he was with two women would be if he was with his sister and mother. some men, when they mess up royally as he did in this case- will flip or pin the blame on the other party (in this case YOU).



this is BS and you should be happy this jagbag is gone.



YOU ARE IN NO WAY AT FAULT HERE AND HIS ACTIONS ARE UNCALLED FOR! stick to your guns- you did the right thing!



--michael in chicago
Whoa this sounds so much like my last big relationship. Two years with the girl, close to marriage, one argument in two years over religion. I didn't like her church. Next thing I know I'm getting a email saying it's over. Saw her the next day and she says it's over and should have never been more than a friendship. Loved her 3 kids, so lost her and her 3 kids and found out this week she has married. So please don't feel that it only happens to girls. I got to move on and so do you. Two months isn't enough and psychologists say the sexual needs begin to fizzle at about 2 years. Heal first, then find someone you can date for a LONGTERM.
The unjolly GREEN giant,oh oh oh,scared him off,plus being very silly shoeing him off like you did helped him see some-one he doesnt want to be married too.

Truth be told,you wanted him in entirety,but he has freinds that enjoy his company too.

When 2 people get together,they should accept that they have a life too,a past,X partners and freinds who may not like the other partner.

A simple mention she drinks the same as my X drank was all it took for a new possible partner.
Lemme get this straight. He's late and doesn't even call? You get pissed when you hear his company on the phone and he doesn't want to forgive you? PUhleez.



Dump the bum. He's trying to make you out to be the bad guy when he has explaining to do. He got caught and he's trying to weasel out of it by shifting blame.



Next time, think about waiting before introducing the kids. They don't understand dating...they get attached and won't understand why someone can't be a part of their lives anymore. when you find the right one, date for a good while and get engaged, then make the intros. good luck.