How can I convince my husband to help me with our daughter? I am not a single parent but I feel like one!!?

I feel like I have to do EVERYTHING. I clean, cook and take care of our daughter's EVERY need. He hardly even plays with her. He thinks that changing her diaper once a day and watching her (which means listening to her cry while he plays video games) for ten-fifteen minutes while I cook dinner is enough. But it isn't. I am worn out I need a break. Why can't he stay up with her one night when she can't sleep? I know he works hard (he's in the military) but so do I . Just because I am a stay at home mom doesn't mean I don't work! I even have to take her in the bathroom with me to use the restroom or get a chance to take a bath! I don't know what to do! I love him to death but I can't live like this anymore!How can I convince my husband to help me with our daughter? I am not a single parent but I feel like one!!?Sounds like my life with my ex. Only I had 3 kids. He never did a damn thing. When they were young, I stayed home. When they were old enough for school, he still did not change. I worked 40 hours a week, cooked,cleaned, ran all the errands. He was worthless. I needed him for less than nothing. But, I loved him. Lay down the law girl. Now! tell him how you feel. If he ignores you, tell him that you gotta go. Just say, I am going to take a bath, so watch our child. Take control and do it fast. You work too. Being a stay at home mom is WORK!!!



What do you need him for, sounds like you can do it all by yourself. Hell, with some batteries any way. I know it's crude, but it is the truth. Your relationship with your child will only be better if you can get away once and awhile. He is selfish because he thinks, I pay all the bills, you do all the work around here. We are even. Hell know, you are working 24-7. He has know idea what that is like. Leave for a night, he will be wishing like hell you were there. Good Luck!How can I convince my husband to help me with our daughter? I am not a single parent but I feel like one!!?
Sad, but your dh may be under alot of stress and he does deal with work all day. I am NOT knocking SAHMs, I have been one and know it is stressful, and I had 3 to look after. But working at a stressful job is a little different. Tell your dh that if he doesn't want to help out more then maybe you could hire a babysitter once a week so that you could get a break. Maybe that will guilt him into stepping up a little. Most of all talk to him, with out nagging. Tell him y ou are not asking him to totally take over, but if he could just take over for a little while it would certainly help you to destress your day and make you feel more "attentive" to him when the lights go out. I am all for wives using sex on their husbands! Bet that will work.How can I convince my husband to help me with our daughter? I am not a single parent but I feel like one!!?Um good luck with that sweety, because I've been dealing with it for 7 years and two kids.... it's slowly gotten better as the kids got older. How old is your daughter btw? I look at it like this, he works all day, I'm the stay at home mom, my sole purpose right now is to take care of the kids. That's what gets me through it, I try to look at the fun parts of it, and it helps me get past the hard part, like the up all night puking stuff. I'm not much help I know, but it helps sometimes to know your not the only one out there.
My husband is the same way. I too am a stay at home mom of 3...and it is rough, I mean rough. There are times that I wake up in the middle of the day, and not even knowing I fell asleep. My husband says, he pays the bills and work everyday, so he needs his solitude away from the kids. So when he comes home, he goes to the bed room, turn on the TV and post until the alarm clock go off in the morning to start a new day. I cook, clean, pick up, drop off, run his errans, along with dr. appt's., dental, I can't even get a pap w/o my 4 yr old and 2 yr old asking me, "why is the dr using that light down there". All I can say is hang in there. I decided to get a job to get a break. Stay at home moms do too much, it's a 24 hour shift, no breaks, no appreciation, nothing but, wha, wha wha. I feel ya.How can I convince my husband to help me with our daughter? I am not a single parent but I feel like one!!?hun he is a shame to be called a man you are his duty not the video game and the military teaches respect and he has none i would leave his stupid *** he is a father not a boy and he is a husband not a live in...kick his a s s to the curb and start savin money for you and the baby and leave his a s s.... stand up for you and your daughter you know what they say little girls will choose men for themselves that are just like their daddy and do you want your baby dating someone like him?How can I convince my husband to help me with our daughter? I am not a single parent but I feel like one!!?
hmm sounds familiar...! They don't get it! maybe sit down and talk with him...but you may have already done this! My advice if you know she will be safe with him get dressed and when he gets home tell him you have to run an errand...and run out the house! Go get a cup of coffee a manicure/pedicure something! I can't even take a shower without someone needing something...So I know how you feel! If he won't give you alone time....then maybe take it! If still he doesn't get it you may have to be tough! It's not fair for him to be soo selfish! GOOD LUCK!
Has he heard the complaints you list here? If not, it's time he did before you fall down exhausted. If he has and dismisses you or minimizes them, try this:



Arrange in advance a day that your husband gets your daughter for the entire day (or an overnight). This way he can get an appreciation for how much work you do. You stay with a girlfriend or go to the spa and see what he has learned in your absense.How can I convince my husband to help me with our daughter? I am not a single parent but I feel like one!!?
I promise you this: it will get better. But it takes a lot of communication.



Convincing the husband of a SAHM's worth is tricky. You also have to communicate appreciation for his work and time. When I went through this with my husband, I was so resentful of his lack of home time that I failed miserably to acknowledge that his job was busy and stressful too.



We came up with a plan that worked a miracle and saved our marriage. We even started planning the second...



Sit down once a week (we did ours on Sunday) and discuss your schedules. When will he be home? When id Poker night, when is bookclub... whatever. Here's the best part:

-- when is your 2 hours out of the house, and when is his two hours.

-- decide who gets the before dinner shift and the after dinner shift with the baby.

-- figure out who is on diaper patrol on Saturday and Sunday...



It sounds absurd, but I am telling you, this is what it takes.



It worked for us, I hope it works for you. And if it doesn't, that you find something that does! Good luck!!
Take his video player hide it with the games somewhere he wont find them , when you cook only cook enough for you and your daughter , dont do his washing , and dont get him anything when he asks for it , he'll either crack it and walk out or he'll realise he's a dad now not a teenage boy , I dont care if he's in the military or working from home you didnt make this baby by yourself and you certainly werent born into enslavement , sometimes it just takes a hard hand to get what you want.



If he wanted a mummy of his own he should have stayed at home living with mummy and daddy plain and simple.When you go for your baths if your daughter is very young put her on a blanket on the floor in front of him stand in front of him and say "I am going to soak in a nice bath I am sure your daddy enough to see to her while I have my 10 minutes of relaxation time". Then walk into the bathroom and block the door from being able to be opened he'll wake up sooner or later.



Good luck.
Honey, you may need to seek professional help! He plays video games while she is crying and makes No attempt to help while you are cooking! I don't care what kind of job he has - he has got to offer a little help. You may need to convince him that you are not super woman. That you would like to take a shower or bath without your daughter. Do you think if you just told him to watch her that you are going to take a shower, run to the store, use the bathroom, cook, etc. that he would not do anything if she continued to cry OR are you to quick to take over - so that he just does not have to worry about it. If you are a 100% sure that he would not harm your daughter and is capible of caring for her - you may just have to force this on him. Example: On his day off - tell him you are going to run to the store. Then do it! or Take a Shower alone and do it. And let him know he will have to care for his daughter while you do this. Make him responsible too!

Or continue to be a one woman army and a single parent and allow him to continue to live as if he is single with out a care in the world!