If you could redo one thing in your life- what would it be? and why?

I had the chance to be with a first love one night-but i couldnt get a ride to the place he was. at the time i was dating a man in the navy who was 2000 miles away, i ended up moving a way marrying him and having 2 wonderful kids. 20 yrs later still married-alot of hard times and alot of knowing im here because of the kids- I just wish things would have turned out different , i wonder if i had been able to get to the first guy if id be happier now, i still think about him alot, though he is now paralyzed. Do you believe in fate, that i was meant to take this path. it just really depresses me and i feel like i have failed, my kids are 19 and 15 and i love them-they are my best friends so maybe i dont have too much to complain about i do have them and maybe that is the only thing that makes sense out of this whole mess to me. thankyou for taking the time to listen to me and for your answers!If you could redo one thing in your life- what would it be? and why?i would have changed the beginning of 8th grade because i made a huge mistake that i regreted.If you could redo one thing in your life- what would it be? and why?
I would have begged my first love to come back to me and not let her get away.If you could redo one thing in your life- what would it be? and why?I would have told him I loved him before it was too late...
Changing one thing huh...my lifestyleIf you could redo one thing in your life- what would it be? and why?I wouldn't redo anything in my life because I feel like everything happens for a reason, everything that has happened in my life has led up to this very day and was meant to be. Life is hard, marriage is hard.. and I dont think being with someone else will change that. You have your children that Im sure you love and adore and if you didnt choose the path you chose you wouldn't have them today. Now if you are truly not happy with your marriage and you tried working things out and it's still not... If you make the decision to leave, you need to make it for yourself. Do what makes you happy, but dont think for one minute that life will be easier. " The grass isn't always greener on the other side".. it just tends to look that way when you are down in life. Good luck with whatever you choose :)If you could redo one thing in your life- what would it be? and why?
It does no good to look back and wonder ...what if...? cuz it is what it is now, and you are where you are. You were meant to be with your first husband because you were meant to be your kids mother...if nothing else. I decided a couple years ago not to stay in my marriage for the kids. We fought constantly and the kids didnt deserve or ask for that. All it does is teach them that "this is what a marriage is supposed to be" I didnt love him anymore and i stopped beating myself up for not wanting to spend the rest of my ONE life married to someone i didnt love--it was more unfair to him than it was to me.

Do what you have to do with your marriage , not because you want to investigate "what could have been" with the ohter guy, but rather so you can live happy and secure in your life. Your kids will survive, milllions do every year. The question is, what do YOU want, and what are you willing to sacrafice. You deserve to be happy, girl. I am so happy now, and although my divorce was a very sad thing, I am never going to loolk back.

good luck
if i change sometime in my past, that could change everything in my future and would change his future. So I don't know. maybe trying harder with my first love.If you could redo one thing in your life- what would it be? and why?
Im only 14 but what I wouldve changed so far in my life is not be so crazy about my first love and loose all of my friends because of him and I ended up getting my heart broken by him any way by cheating on me with my best friend. So that's what I would do.