Alright, so this is going to be a long one...I鈥檓 currently working with this "said" female and I had an unfortunate run-in with her. I started talking to her months before this event happened. I basically loved talking to her and I could tell she was kind of easing into the idea. She brought up the fact that we should do something sometime...i.e., drink. So I said, sure thing since my best friend would be at my house that particular night. Outstanding. So she came in and was all jazzed about it and even went shopping for new clothes and said she was going to "do herself up?" Pretty sure she meant get ready or something because she looked beautiful!! I picked her up at around 2200 PM since, when she drinks she hates driving, so she was going to have some guy come and pick her up around 2330 PM later that night...not much time for drinking. So I offered her my bed which btw, is extremely expensive and brand new! She kept saying she wasn鈥檛 going to take it since it was rude for her to make me sleep on the couch which I actually planned on passing out on my pool table so it was all good; D Anyways, she started egging me about my past relationships and stuff and even talked for 3 hrs on my own bed with me about stuff. Mainly about what makes me nervous and stuff. I鈥檓 in the Army, so, nothing affects me anymore. So, from there, things happened and I ended up "with" her that night and after that day, which made me feel like so much crap it was unreal!! I really care about her and now she hardly talks to me :( I just want to keep apologizing but she WILL NOT listen! I told her last night, and keep in mind, this dark event happened 6 days ago, with minimal contact, and I quote, "this is going to be THE last thing I鈥檓 going to say to you. I need to talk about what happened, the other night cause it screwed me up BADLY. Please let me know when you want to talk. See you around.".........Was I wrong to say this to her?? Please people...let me know ASAP. It has been killing me inside. I really care for this girlDid I screw up big time? Alcohol+BEAUTIFUL women= One Night Stand= Severe depression?its not your fault. YOU BOTH WERE DRINKING! stop saying sorry you did it once.Did I screw up big time? Alcohol+BEAUTIFUL women= One Night Stand= Severe depression?.. I hate to be the one to break it to you, but if this girl stopped talking to you after you "got together", she was only really after one thing. So why spend your time trying to win her back, when she really only ever wanted something superficial? I mean think about it. She KNEW she was going to get drunk with you that night. There's no way she couldn't predict what would happen that night..
I think the problem is, you want a relationship with her and she obviously isn't looking for a relationship.. let it go. Mistakes happen, they're a part of life. Keep moving forward, and don't let yourself dwell on this.
Maybe next time, you'll realize drinking+pretty girls= not good?Did I screw up big time? Alcohol+BEAUTIFUL women= One Night Stand= Severe depression?I get that you care for her but I don't know why she would treat you like the bad guy. You were both drunk and unless you molested her, she had as much a part in it as you did. You guys talked for a good bit so I'm guessing that she wasn't blackout the next day drunk. If she wants to blame you for it, I'd let her and not talk to her again.Did I screw up big time? Alcohol+BEAUTIFUL women= One Night Stand= Severe depression?
first off let me say I FEEL YOU ! , gosh this is horrible, okay what i'm going to tell you is going to sound crazy,,,,, but just stop contacting her all at once... listen i had been with my ex boyfriend for 2 years and we had a pretty good relationship.. recently he broke up with me and the first few days i made the same mistake as you.. i started texting him and callin him trying to apologize and get things back on track.... BIG MISTAKE because he saw it as weakness. and im betting that she did too... so just stop talking to her. act like shes not there when ever u have to be around her.. and show her that your strong..... do the complete opposite of anything you feel like doing. IT WAS THE HARDEST THING IVE EVER DONE IN MY LIFE. and hey its working two wonders
FIRST: im starting to feel better about myself and sort of forgettin about this whole situation
SECOND: my ex sees how strong im being and now hes contacted me to " see how im doing " ...
maybe if you stop texting her or calling or what ever shell realize tht she misses talking to you and that she actually valued the type of friendship you too had... hope i helped! .... BUT PLEASE FOLLOW MY ADVICE.
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