I had a one night stand and cheated on my boyfriend?

My boyfriend got into a bad fight about him taking a job out of town. I went out with my girlfriends (not intending for anything to happen, just drinking). Anyway, I met this guy. He was totally gorgeous (5'11, muscular, long wavy blonde hair, gorgeous blue eyes, pale skin, full lips, well I'll stop now because I'll ramble on otherwise). But anyway, we got to talking and he was just so nice and funny. So I asked him back to my apartment. We had sex (a lot of it). And it was just so completely... terrific. My boyfriend's the same age as him but more of like "Let's do as much as we can, as hard as we can and as fast as we can." The sex was like really slow and romantic. So anyway, my boyfriend, who was supposed to away for his "new job" strolled in the morning after to find us both in the kitchen being busy but not cooking. The guy asked to see me again and my boyfriend is furious about me being with him. I didn't think my boyfriend and I were still together because taking that job would pretty much mean it was over. He wouldn't talk to me so I went out with the new guy again (who continues to be insanely perfect). Today, I talked to his sister (he won't talk to me now) and she told me he came over that morning to propose. I feel bad of course. And even though I've been with the new guy a short while, he's just so intriguing. Not to mention the physical connection (but he never initiates sex, I do). My boyfriend would be the better choice on paper: I know he loves me, he's got a good job and ready to settle down and the new guy, everything is uncertain. I love my BF but I feel like I connect with the new guy better. I just don't know what to do. Please help. Thanks.|||do u love the other guy to? if so, then date both, :p then after awhile, tell them both what your doing.. they'll understand. :) it worked for my friend :)|||Look, it's obvious that your boyfriend might be "the right person" but it's the wrong time. You're digging on supposively "one night stand" guy more than just passing interest. I think it's time to check out of the relationship.|||What do you want, security and the feeling you missed out on one of the world's great romances,





or experience one of the worlds great romances, and look for security after wards?|||what does this have to do with marriage and divorce? sorry it just gets annoying to hear about a dating break up what not, when some of us have marriages falling apart with children involved. this section is for those people to find support.|||Well your BF may be ready to settle down but it certainly seems that you aren't.|||its a shame your boyfriend exhibited more control than i would have. You wouldn't be typing sht if you were the girl who robbed me of my honor.|||what makes you think your boyfriend still wants to be with you?





if he left, then I would take that as a sign that he doesn't want you anymore... at least I hope so.|||if u really do/did love/d ur bf u would've never had sex or still be having sex with the new guy.. so there u go move on.. ur bf doesn't deserve it..|||you did the right thing!





marriage is over rated!|||Wow and I bet you don't feel any guilt either. You're just messed up. So sad that you gave up so easy.





You should not be married for many, MANY, MANY, years or in a serious relationship for just as long. Where's your respect?





"Gee, it's been 5 mins that I've been broke up...time to look for the next guy."





Being in a relationship means you don't give up at the first argument. Your ex deserves much better than you.





This has nothing to do with marriage or divorce and you seem to have made up your mind. Please, don't get back with your ex he needs to find TRUE happiness and that will apparently not be with you.





good luck.|||you're delusional if you think you really deserve your ex-bf! stay with the new guy and don't go back to the old one; you'll be doing the old one a favor. he'll find someone better, and you can move on to whomever you want.|||Wow! Well, 1st of all ive been there done that. And all i can say not all the time the grass is greener it may seem lush and pretty but most of the time its all weeds. You don't know the guy so he could be just putting up a front.If u really like him get to know him and see if that's someone you would wat to be with. Good luck!!!!|||Well if you are cheating - it ain't love my dear. Let your boyfriend go ASAP- and tell him why, the trutth. This is so unfair to him. Then you can be free to do what you want. Or you can tell him to want to have sex with another guy and tell him he is free to have sex wiith other women. See if he agrees.|||Don't lie to yourself, if you loved your boyfriend you wouldn't be doing what you are. You made it clear you prefer the new guy, leave the boyfriend that is going out of town, and stick to the new guy. You thought things were over but he didn't, this time make it clear that things are over, and you met someone new.|||Obviously you don't love him too much if you cheated on him. And cheating is never the resolution to a stupid argument, regardless of what other women say. That's nasty. Sex on the first night? Women don't respect themselves.





Just be glad your ex wasn't a raging maniac.|||Well, I think you should've made sure that you told your bf is was over before you decided to have a one night stand. It was obviously heartbreaking for him and if things were the other way around then I'm sure you would've been devastated too. However, if you have serious feelings for this new guy, then trust your instincts. Just be prepared, because things might not stay this hot for very long with the new guy either, and when that time comes, I hope you're not missing your old bf... Anyways, think it over but in the end, always trust your instincts.|||Your boyfriend deserves better than you. Just say your sorry and end it. Then if you want to be with this new guy, go ahead, your choice, but i think it was pretty bad that you went and cheated when you truly didn't know if you and your boyfriend were broken up. Bad show on your part. You can do better than that.|||If you aren't over - you should be. Clearly you do not love your boyfriend enough to actually be with him (marriage wise). If that is what he was coming over to ask you about - then let him be free. He has a new job in a new place, thus he has new possibilities. You are happily distracted which speaks volumes to how you truly feel about the bf. Sure, you may care for him, but you are really into this other guy. Clearly you are not on the same page as your bf. You don't even talk about him in the complimentary way you talk about this new guy. You mention all that the bf does for you and how he is good for you - but you don't really talk about how you feel for him/about what you did and how it hurt him.





Let him go! Do him a favor, and yourself! He stands a chance in this new place - so let him go!|||i dont want to sound too mean here... but you definatley sound slutty... or easy, whichever word you prefer. why would you break up just because of a job? i think you were looking for excuses to not feel bad for yourself and having sex with some guy that you dont even know.


i dont think you felt bad one bit after you found out that your bf was going to propose to you that morning because you went out with him agian. im sure the minute he walked out the door you continued not cooking in the kitchen.


i also have to say that i agree with 90% of the other comments left on here. your bf is right. there is NO WAY that you are ready to be married! and i think now that he is the one that wants nothing to do with you. whether it be from embarrassment, anger, or sadness; im sure hell avoid you at all costs.


well i wish him the best of luck with the job, a new girl that wont cheat on him and a good married life...


i wish you luck too that you dont get any STDs





i hope your proud of yourself