Afraid of being without any one to ever love?

im 17 and never done anything with a girl never the less going out with one, but i just want to find someone who will always be their for me.



im depressed as i don't have a girlfriend. i know people will say get over it but **** them as they don't know the pain of depression and the fact that if we could just snap out of it no one would never be depressed, i have tried different things to make me stop feeling like this such as meditation, bodily cleansing, but it doesn't work. my depression has caused me to make some bad choices like cutting my self and attempted suicide.



their are probable people out their in a worse state than me, but i just want to get a girlfriend. my ideal girl would be someone like me who hasn't dated be-for and hasn't done anything with anyone as that is what i am, and i would like it that way so we could discover everything together rather than one of the people having the upper hand so to speak.



i know that i will never get what i want and am willing to give up my dreams to find a girlfriend.



i go snowboarding often, i make wood carvings, i make pieces of art, i like music. i do these things to occupy my time to take my mind of my impending loneliness and sadness



im have asked people out before and they have said no to me all the time, it has shattered my self confidence. i thought the first phew times it was ok to be rejected and stuff, but when it was about the 30th person i asked out i was heart broken as id found tones of girls i Truly liked but they didn't like me back, i had a kind of mental break down and thought is their anything wrong with me, and i couldn't think of anything as i don't look horrible or ugly or anything, i think i have a good personality, the only problem is my self confidence.



i waited longer than any one else in my collage to date, im the only person who hasn't, i didn't think it was my time when i was 13 so i waited and saw all my peers and friends get girlfriend after girlfriend, have sex, one night stands, even just holding a girl in their arms.



i think not having a girlfriend has made me shut down my emotions as at the moment i rarely smile or become sad, i haven't cried in years, its like i have been stuck in a neutral mode and cant turn on my emotions, i have even watched a friend die before me and i didn't even show the slightest bit of emotion.



i would gladly appreciate any help from anny one if they wish to give me their wisdomAfraid of being without any one to ever love?I see your point and I see your zest buddy.... but then, you don't go looking for girlfriends and people to love... it sure should happen..... meet new people... socialize.... talk to them with an open heart.... you might soon end up finding someone who lives for you too... actually sometimes I feel and have similar emotions like your's.... in that I might never find someone who truly loves me... I guess time will tell... and perhaps then, we might feel it was worth the wait!!!!! :-)Afraid of being without any one to ever love?
You need to see a doctor if your depression is chronic.



Also I'm in your situation except I'm older, but I've learnt to live with it and not get in the way in what I want to do by myself and achieve all those things that I want without the help of a girlfriend. Maybe you need to set your priorities straight, don't focus that goal on getting a girlfriend, these things can't be rushed albeit a bit frustrating to see everyone around you getting one. Also set some clear goals, get some hobbies that you like doing by yourself, enjoy yourself, love yourself first. If you can't love yourself, what girl would want to go out with you.Afraid of being without any one to ever love?Well, at 17 - altho it might seem it, you haven`t quite lost the race yet - you have about another 80 years to find your girl.



You somehow have to get yourself back in the stream of life again. Girls don`t just fall into your lap - unfortunately you have to go out and find them.



Surely you have got some mates to go out with? That is your first step as it will give you confidence to mix a bit. Failing this, get yourself out into the town - stores, cafes, restaurants, the library, the park - anywhere where you might bump into the female sex. Or a social hobby or group activity where you will be with other people.

You have to make an effort.Afraid of being without any one to ever love?
Your age is not anything to worry about a relationship with some girl. You have loads of time to find/wait the person who is made up for you, just for you.

My boyfriend was 21 when he met me and everything for him was just like it is now for you. And he is not a loser at all. I love him so much.Afraid of being without any one to ever love?I think u need counselling, u need to feel confident and happy about your self without any one. When u do get a girlfriend you will find your self getting emotionally attached and when you break up you'll feel lonely again. Also confidence is the most attractive thing a guy can have, so first work on your confidence, and dont look in the wrong places for a girlfriend or else u'll just end up being rejected. Look in the right places and work on confidence is the key thing :)Afraid of being without any one to ever love?
You know that you can't be in this state forever because there is someone out there for everyone. You're only 17 that gives you a lot of time to find a girlfriend. Right now you should just have fun and invite whoever to go and hangout with you. Make friendly conversations with everyone that way you're distracting yourself from being down about not having a girlfriend and also kinda searching for one. The thing is that good things come to those who wait if you keep thinking about not having a girlfriend and how you think your life won't be good unless you have one is total bullshit. I know it might seem like a real fuckedd up situation right now but in the future when you find that one girl you've been waiting for you will be happy you enjoyed your life so that you are ready to settle down with her. So I would say being around lots of people will help broaden your horizon. And relationships make life harder so relax while you can! And cheer up bud !!!! I know she's coming your way soon !
dats ur whole problem is that u give a crap!! Being depressed isnt helping either. No girl wants depressed guy, she wants funny, fun, confident guy!! Stop asking every1 out, play hard to get more and get out there and have fun, enjoy life, be happy on ur own a while. If ur with a girl and she treats u shite, its better being single.