Accidentally on Purpose got pregnant from a one night stand - Should I tell him?

Im in my late thirties and wanted to have a child - i tried to conceive via donor sperm but it did not work. I met someone on vacation and we had a great time together, but with no intent of creating a relationship. We were both silly and did not use protection - obviously risking STD, but I (being in a rut due to my inability to get pregnant) did not ask him to use protection nor did he ask me if I was protected. A few weeks later I found out I was pregnant and although I had his contact informtaion, I never told the father. I had always planned on having a baby on my own, but using a donor - I would have had all the background info to provide my child. We (the father and I) had no intention of starting a relationship living in cities separted by a 2 hour plane ride. Now my baby is here and I feel I should let him know because I dont want to cheat her of getting to know her daddy should he want to be involved. What should I do? Id love it if he would want to be an involved parent, would be willing to allow visitation, calls, acknowledge "daddy" on holidays and birthdays. My biggest fear is that he will try to go through a custody battle with me. Ive done my research and dont think he will ever be awarded custody, but still I fear. What should I say if I call him - how do I go about this?Accidentally on Purpose got pregnant from a one night stand - Should I tell him?just tell him what you said. Tell him you are not asking for him to have any responisibilty but if he chooses he can be there for her. I wouldn't come across wrong though, he can see it as you using him to get pregnant so i would word everything right. I would just be honest and truthful and if he freaks out denying that it could be his, then you have your answer. I don't think he'll fight for custody if you are honest with him. Maybe you should call him without telling him at first that way you can lead into it.i hope it works out well for youAccidentally on Purpose got pregnant from a one night stand - Should I tell him?Yes, I think you should tell him. The truth seems like a good thing to say.Accidentally on Purpose got pregnant from a one night stand - Should I tell him?It was YOUR choice to go through with the pregnancy, and YOU wanted a child. This man doesn't deserve you to F-up his life because of YOUR choice. Find this baby a NEW daddy who will love him/her NOT because he is guilted into it, but because he loves you.

This man you slept with is THE SAME AS A SPERM DONOR. Leave him be. I'm not being mean here, I'm being honest and realistic.

If you go to this man and tell him you had his child, you're going to be the bad-person here for being selfish in this situation and not caring if he wanted a child or not.

Conclusion: LEAVE HIM ALONE AND FIND A NEW DAD for this child.