If a one night stand ends up with pregnancy do I have to tell him?

I'm sure this may sound terrible to some people..



I'm not 100% sure that I'm pregnant. But I've been thinking about this a lot because it COULD be a possibility.



So here's the situation:



A few weeks ago I had slept with a guy who is a complete loser. Why is he a complete loser? you may ask, here is my criteria I've gathered:



1. Drop out

2. Unemployed

3. he's 18

4. He stabbed my cousin in the leg. i have no idea how this happened. but..whatever.

5. No vehicle or form of transportation.



The list could go on but I have a limit of characters here.



My main problem here is that honestly, i would love to be a mother. I love kids, i have a college education, a great job..I just don't do relationships. ever. I've been through so many terrible ones that I've just learned the hard way that men aren't going to protect you anymore.



So if I am pregnant do i HAVE to tell him or is it my choice? I have no feelings for this guy. I don't want him in my life. Not even for legal reasons (such as child support). If he seriously STABBED SOMEONE, in my family for that matter, i really wouldnt feel safe letting him be around my baby.



What would you do?

Am i being selfish?

Advice.If a one night stand ends up with pregnancy do I have to tell him?You have a big decision to make that is for sure and I hope what ever you decide it is made with a lot of consideration. Something I think about what if this child needs to have something or ends up with something from his side of the family such diabetes or something that is curable or at least controllable now or later. Is there mental handicaps in the family.Things such as that. If he is that much of a loser now more than likely he is going to deny it is his and even if it is his I doubt he is going to be very good support. he will not hold a job long enough to rub two penny's together and more than likely you would end up supporting him along with the child's. If you do tell him let him know you don't want any support money just information so if it is needed later in life for the child sake. One never knows what may come up.



Now as a man myself I would want to know and I think every man should give his child support in several was but I don't like a gold digger.If a one night stand ends up with pregnancy do I have to tell him?
What would i do? Well for one i wouldn't have slept with him if he was a loser because honestly at the end of the day your not really saying much for yourself! And yes i would tell him, if you really are pregnant as it will also be his child and he has a rite to know.If a one night stand ends up with pregnancy do I have to tell him?You don't HAVE to tell him anything. Unless you want court-mandated child support. I would just ignore him and if he asked, tell him it's another man's child. You don't have to inform him it's his child unless he gets a court-ordered paternity test.
Why would you have sex with a guy that stabbed your cousin?



But anyways, legally you do not have to tell him. Morally, you should. I think every guy deserves to know he has a child out there. But in the end it is your choice to make.If a one night stand ends up with pregnancy do I have to tell him?as a mother rhe main thing to do is protect your child i wudnt tell him but chances are your child will want to know , why did you sleep with him after stabbing your cousin ok never mind we all make mistakes but u can do it alone u sound like a good personIf a one night stand ends up with pregnancy do I have to tell him?
you dont have to tell him but i would try to get child support out of him.
tell him it might be motivation for him to get his **** together or notIf a one night stand ends up with pregnancy do I have to tell him?
i wouldnt tell his dumb ***!!! he sounds pathetic!
I won't ask why you decided to sleep with a loser.....



Here are my thoughts:



I probably would tell him, and then tell him that you don't need or want anything from him. It is his DNA after all.



But if you don't feel safe with him (like the stabbing happened after you slept with him), then I'd reconsider.



At the same time, I know of a deadbeat dad that has caused more harm than good in his child's life.



Sorry I don't have an answer. The more I think about it, the more complicated it becomes. Whatever you decide, have confidence in your decision.
Thats a hard question, but I would say No unless you want help financially. You can never make someone be a father. They would have to want it and from all the things that you have mentioned, I wouldnt. It would just cause more drama in the family and more drama legally if he or his family wanted to be apart of the baby's life. As much as it is hard for everyone to admit, sometimes its better not to say anything.