How do I rebuild my motivation?

When I was a kid or teenager, I recall being very motivated. Now, in my 30s, I find my motivation pretty much up and died. By motivation, I mean my drive to achieve and get out into the world. Now, it's like I couldn't care less if the world obliterated itself. I know I shouldn't feel so apathetic, but I just do. I tried counseling a number of times, but it never makes any difference and just seems to add to my apathy because they always end up saying I'm "ok," but I suspect it's because either there are limits to my insurance coverage or because they just don't know what to say. In the end, I feel more apathetic than when I went in, but annoyed that I wasted time on it that I could have spent watching TV, mindlessly surfing the internet, or playing chess against my computer.



I need to exercise, which I've blown off for years now, but the thing that's signaling a problem lately is that I stopped caring about eating right and haven't gone to the grocery store to buy fruits or vegetables like I used to do. It's like a part of me died, but I'm not unhappy, but doing stupid stuff like eating a box of mac %26amp; cheese for dinner and just sitting around watching TV and movies. Hulu and internet TV didn't help. I've spent entire days watching TV...



Some people think I should find religion and be "born again." I've tapped religion out. I've done a ridiculous amount of reading (not verse memorization, that's for people that are convinced) of the Bible, the Koran, the Tao de Ching, etc, etc. It doesn't do anything for me. Yeah, I've prayed on it and the answer was quite clear: all religions are wrong - the instant a religion is formed, it commits apostasy.



I look at clubs and other things I might do, but it seems like everyone my age is married and busy raising kids. I never got lucky that way, I guess and now I'm a complete outsider. I feel no sense of belonging and less and less desire to belong. Not only do I feel alienated from others, but more alienated from myself.How do I rebuild my motivation?
So, excersize, and your body releases endophines in your brain that make you happy. It is called saratonin. Buying fruits and vegetables and eating them is very good, and also adds to your well being, for your body as a whole.

You sound a little depressed, but you don't need meds for that, you just need to let loose, regain a second wind, and start getting out there and doing something you feel good about, because life is short, and you weren't givin this life to waste. It is for you to learn.

I am sorry, and don't mean to sound mean, but by the things you wrote, it sounds kinda like you have become a little lazy, and in exchange, you have become dull, and a part of you really wants to get back out and experience life before it is over. I suggest that your body is sending you a message.

I think the alienation part is, a way to hide from the things that you have not yet been givin. You may find the love of your life at any age, but not if you refuse to keep a positive attitude. You will only find, that you have been responsible for the things you don't have yet. You are alienating yourself. do you really think your friends wake up every morning and say to themselves, " Wow! That so and so is a real loser, because they aren't married."? Heck no, they love you for you, and you need to quit feeling bad because life hasn't dealt you any aces or deuces. You need to work hard to obtain and keep the things that are important to you, they will not usually fall in your lap.

Also you mentioned religion. I do not like how many religions say that you cannot worship any other god. Well I have found that in my personal belief it is best for myself to be christian nostic. That means it is ok to just be spiritual and not go to church, but still believe in god.

Also it means that you can respect any religion's god , as long as you recognize that there are higher powers out there, and any god, is god.



I appologize for the god lecture...but it just makes sense that when you have no faith in good things, your life will feel devoid of meaning. That is what hope is.How do I rebuild my motivation?
first, tell me where i can get motivation to read you LONG post ?????How do I rebuild my motivation?
Look into yoga. I implore you to try it. Buy a little mat and do it outdoors even.



Do you do anything creative? Like art, or writing, playing an instrument or maybe even filming. Find something you can do that's constructive.



It's easy to become apathetic in this lifestyle. My remedy is that we are all called to transcendence. That is our purpose. How you do it is up to you. Find that eternal bliss. Travel the world if you have money. See ancient ruins in Mexico. Or the Roman city. Or even Japan. Spice things up a lot.



I don't really suggest finding and searching for girls. That wastes time. Rather, go about your business and your hobbies and your life and see who pops up before you. You never know what's going to happen.
You can force it %26amp; pretend to be motivated or you can actually face all the funk %26amp; junk inside of you honestly ... meaning feel all your emotions inside of you .. ALL OF THEM !! You are stuck based on how you feel about you !! Everyone has damage. You must face it all. The rewards are beyond measure.



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