Can someone get me over my fear of "losing"?

When I play chess, I can play perfectly against a computer, and perfectly in real life infront of someone with a chess board between us. When I play online against someone, no matter how bad they're rated, I can never seem to beat them. I believe its more psychological than skill-based, because people who are rated 800 I can beat because I beat computers and people with 1200 ratings. Is there any tips you can suggest to get me over this?Can someone get me over my fear of "losing"?
Just know that. When you lose. You'll know why you lost. And you learned something new in experience. Losing is just as good as winning. Because you'll always learn something. And you'll do better next time "If at first you don't succeed, dust yourself off and try again." Song by Aaliyah.
Just learn from your mistakes and you will know then where you are going wrong, simple asCan someone get me over my fear of "losing"?
Losing is how you start winning. How else is one to learn? I wouldn't lie because this wouldn't benefit me in anyway. Best wishes.
You should approach every opponent indifferently and without fear like Frank Marshall play your best no matter who you face if you lose you'll learn from your mistakes and only improve.Can someone get me over my fear of "losing"?
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